Friday, October 31, 2008

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Things that Turn

Pages; vinyl records; milk when it is bad; sunflowers--towards the sun, chicory leaf--towards the north; a roly poly when touched; waffles and pancakes and merry-go-rounds; the night to cold, the day to warm; a light on and off; a friend on the street when you call out her name; that bright-eyed heart-eclipsed girl from the old 80's song; an old jerk, a new leaf; the seasons; a good car on a shiny dime; the time this Sunday, falling back; this baby girl inside me: head down now, Readying herself, the doctor says, to be born.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Week 34

Your baby now weighs four and three-quarters pounds; you know this because she is balancing on top of your bladder and you can feel every ounce of her, but you don't really mind, actually you don't mind at all, because all you can think about are her toes and how small and perfect they already are and how you'll kiss them and how they'll smell like a newborn baby--that smell you never understood when other people gabbed about it; hmm, you thought, bizarre--but now, getting so close, you're beginning to understand, and you can hardly wait, so you bide your time sipping tea and thinking about how next fall you'll have to find tiny matching socks before you even leave the house.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Thursday Poem

Trying to find a poem to post, I notice a terrible deficiency in poems that contain Thursdays. Tuesdays are everywhere; Sundays follow closely, but Thursdays seem all but forgotten. How sad to be a Thursday, especially when the cold sets in, and you have not worn socks (your mother would be disappointed), and you have left your scarf on the hook by the door, the hook you hung so you would not forget to grab your scarf on a cold day, a Thursday say, when you were running--breathless, poem-less--out the door, running somewhere that you have already arrived and now nearly forgotten.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Latin for Cake

Perhaps I've found a way to simultaneously curb my sweet tooth and quadruple my anxiety about giving birth. [Not that I'm anxious (I keep telling myself!), not at all--it's perfectly natural and beautiful; everyone was born.] I'm just struck by the vast new vocabulary I've acquired since getting knocked up.

I remember when "sunny side up" was merely a way to order eggs, when "back labor" was akin to working overtime, when "placenta" was just something somehow related to babies. Now, placenta, Latin for cake, has a whole new meaning, and those long walks down to Sugar Sweet Sunshine, the ones I couldn't do without early in my pregnancy, where I'd belly up to the counter and order vanilla cake with vanilla frosting, well, they've taken on a whole new hue.
Ah, for the days when cake meant little more than happiness and calories...

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Fall

I never fail to be amazed
by how much joy the leaf blower brings my husband.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Rightside Up

As a general rule, I prefer being upside down.

Exhibit A:
Imagine then my despair at my thirty-two week ultrasound when Uh-oh, the doctor said, looks like she's bottom-down breech. I stared hard at the screen, and there happy as can be, surrounded by my amniotic fluid: my pretty little daughter sitting on her pretty little bum. What are you doing in there? I wanted to yell.

I mean, how do you explain to an unborn child how difficult it will be in the real world to be upside down? You have to hunt down trapezes and monkey bars and yogis who cling wildly to inversions--it ain't easy. Do it now, I want to say. You've got your whole life to be rightside up!

So now in my spare time I google "turning a breech baby." Yes, it's only been forty-eight hours since I got the news (which, by the way, they told me was waaaaaaay too early in the game to worry about), but already I've done acupuncture and shoulder stand and cut out sugar (well, except for cupcakes) and talked to her and sang to her and made C. shine a flashlight at the bottom of my belly and put a bag of frozen peas near her little head.

And though I've yet to find "try shaming her into turning by writing about it in your blog," I thought I'd try that too.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Other People's Windows

I love my early morning walks around the neighborhood, love seeing the sky turn pink as the sun rises over Brooklyn and smelling the sweet, doughy fresh baked Italian bread. I love looking in people's windows and seeing their coffee pots dripping in empty kitchens as they--somewhere in another room--shower or hunt down cufflinks or try to get their sleepy-headed spouses out of bed. And then there is the homeless man around the corner, or maybe he's not homeless, maybe he's just waiting for the bus in an old beat-up coat, and God bless your baby girl, he says. I love him too.

Monday, October 13, 2008

Dream 1013

Sometimes I don't dream about the baby. Last night, I walked miles and miles...always walking.

There are these old, old mountains in southwest Oklahoma, mountains so old they've been scaled down by time and almost aren't even mountains anymore, mountains where I'd camp in college. Nights, we'd channel dead poets and eat Frito's; mornings, we'd wake up to buffalo outside the tent. I haven't seen those mountains in over a decade, and they were always so fragile--earth breaking up under my hiking boots, memory slipping away on the drive back to school--that I sometimes find myself wondering if they're even still there.

That was all that was in the dream: just a long walk through those archaic mountains, and then the room grew a bit cold, and the baby kicked, and, finally, I got up to close the window and make us warm.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Three-Ring Mind

My mind has been a total circus lately. I woke up on Tuesday with a deep gash in my leg from my own thumbnail. It sent me into a spin: If I can't keep my own nails trimmed, I thought, how will I take care of a baby and trim her nails and how do you even bathe them? Aren't they slippery? And what about those little suction-y things? And why have people given me mitts? And what if I can't hear her crying? And what about when she gets older and glares at me over uneaten-quinoa across the kitchen table? What if she says she hates me?

I spent the rest of the day wandering around in a wrinkled dress trying to figure out how I could be thirty-four years old and still believe that wrinkles just magically fall out of clothes.

Yesterday's anxiety was more generalized. I took an early walk across the Brooklyn Bridge. It was gorgeous, and the sky was so blue, and the city so perfect, and What, I kept thinking, is the purpose of life? Why do we write and love and grasp and grapple, and all day I was coming up empty handed. Students came in and out of my office. One told me a story of her estranged father reattaching the neck of a tiny ceramic goose he had given her mother years earlier. Maybe that's it, I thought. Or maybe the way this light's coming in; or this kick from the baby; or this perfect peach.

By the time I left the office and was walking to yoga, my mom called back. I had left a message that I had two questions.

Her: What's up, girly?

Me: Hey momma. How do you get rid of a sty?

Her: Warm, moist heat.

Me: Great. Thanks. Okay. What's the purpose of life?

Her: Sex, drugs and rock-n-roll.

Me: I thought you might say that.

We hung up, and I went to yoga where I fell into a deep and peaceful sleep and woke up only to eat an Organic Oreo.

So, folks, my mother's weighed in--though she may change her tune now (I was kidding! Do you think they'll know I was kidding!?!)--I need more. Purpose of life, please.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Playing with Poems!!!

My dear friend, Zoe Ryder White who also happens to be expecting her first baby (!!!), just came out with a book. It's an instructional book for K-2 that uses poems to teach word lessons, and what a beauty it is! Congratulations Zoe!

Zoe included a few of my poems, ones that I wrote especially for the book, and I feel really honored and grateful. (Thanks, Zo.) I'll spare you the one about screaming for ice cream as I've been doing enough of that around here lately, but here's one that teaches compound words. Hope you enjoy...

Postcard from Someplace Lopsided

Dear Sweetheart,

I have spent the afternoon
watching the sunrise.
All is sideways but full of butterflies.
Here, the ladybugs live in beehives
and the sunflowers bloom on seashores.
Oh, it is something!
Just this morning,
sipping my tea from a buttercup
and basking in a moonbeam,
I heard the heartbeat of a rosebud.
I'd do anything if you could be here
to see the wheelbarrows of wishbones
and the downpour of starlight.
Please visit soon.
I am awestruck but oh so lonely.

Love,
Somebody Blue

Monday, October 6, 2008

If only grading were so easy...

Gee, You’re So Beautiful That It’s Starting to Rain


Oh, Marcia,
I want your long blonde beauty
to be taught in high school,
so kids will learn that God
lives like music in the skin
and sounds like a sunshine harpsichord.
I want high school report cards
to look like this:

Playing with Gentle Glass Things
A

Computer Magic
A

Writing Letters to Those You Love
A

Finding out about Fish
A

Marcia’s Long Blonde Beauty
A+!

by Richard Brautigan

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Sweet Little Ditty

On Friday night, I ate ice cream for dinner.
On Saturday night, I had pie.
Tonight, I'll sup on sugar cane soup,
and that, my dear, ain't a lie!

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Week 31

Your baby now weighs more than a large head of cabbage; your heart has grown more than 30 percent, and you, you...well, how do we say it? You may be feeling...emotional? Perhaps you drop a jar of mustard on the floor; it doesn't even break, just sort of flies and rolls, and you want to yell; you get sort of teary; you feel like when you were thirteen and you want to punch something but your husband looks at you like you're insane, so instead, you choke on your own thick words and try breathing deeply (all that yoga!) but that doesn't work, so you point to your belly and tell your husband you need him to love the baby and to love you and then you make him promise that he will never leave, no matter how crazy or clumsy you get. No, you say, really promise. Cross your heart. You have to. But don't hope to die. Please don't. Promise. Because we need you. And there you are: standing in the light of the kitchen, clutching a jar of mustard and wishing, wishing, oh deep-belly-wishing that you had bought a head of cabbage last week so you could pick it up and forget all of this and try (try, try just a little) to begin to understand the weight of things to come.